"Intimacy is a four syllable word for, "Here's my heart and soul, please grind them into hamburger, and enjoy." It's both desired, and feared. Difficult to live with, and impossible to live without..."
"At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don't keep other people out. They fence you in. Life is messy. That's how we're made. So, you can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines... that are way too dangerous to cross..." - Meredith Grey, M.D.
Ok, so I'm a Grey's Anatomy junkie. But aside from the fact that being a doctor was one of my childhood fantasies (aside from being an astronaut, an archaelogist, and a marine biologist) and that Patrick Dempsey is part of the cast, there is something striking about Mer's soliloquies (great writers by the way) that makes me rethink this whole hoopla about my life. (Be sure to note that this would not be the last time that I will be quoting her.)
Intimacy is a big word, especially for people (like me) who grew up with very-thick-moat-surrounded-20feet-high walls around me. It is such a big deal that when we do allow certain people to enter, they have to swim past the alligators, answer the riddles, say the secret password and do the secret handshake. And you thought it was that easy! Of course, all people have their walls (which they've built throughout their lives) but some are gentle enough to welcome anybody in without much difficulty.
So just imagine those chosen few who gets a chance to see what's behind the walls. Some are happy to be there, some stay for awhile, and some stay forever. But some are just challenged to see what's there and after seeing for themselves, they leave behind an empty space. An empty space which becomes another wall, thereby adding to the already ridiculously fortified barrier.
But that's life, you either have to get your act together or you just call it quits. Cross the moat, scale down the walls, call on an army of orcs and ogres to destroy those walls (yes and have Legolas save me), do what it takes to destroy those barriers. Because only then with the walls down, can you feel free. Take caution though, for not all boundaries are meant to be crossed.
For the meantime, I really need to find some space because my walls are crashing in on me and it's getting pretty hard to breathe...
"At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don't keep other people out. They fence you in. Life is messy. That's how we're made. So, you can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines... that are way too dangerous to cross..." - Meredith Grey, M.D.
Ok, so I'm a Grey's Anatomy junkie. But aside from the fact that being a doctor was one of my childhood fantasies (aside from being an astronaut, an archaelogist, and a marine biologist) and that Patrick Dempsey is part of the cast, there is something striking about Mer's soliloquies (great writers by the way) that makes me rethink this whole hoopla about my life. (Be sure to note that this would not be the last time that I will be quoting her.)Intimacy is a big word, especially for people (like me) who grew up with very-thick-moat-surrounded-20feet-high walls around me. It is such a big deal that when we do allow certain people to enter, they have to swim past the alligators, answer the riddles, say the secret password and do the secret handshake. And you thought it was that easy! Of course, all people have their walls (which they've built throughout their lives) but some are gentle enough to welcome anybody in without much difficulty.
So just imagine those chosen few who gets a chance to see what's behind the walls. Some are happy to be there, some stay for awhile, and some stay forever. But some are just challenged to see what's there and after seeing for themselves, they leave behind an empty space. An empty space which becomes another wall, thereby adding to the already ridiculously fortified barrier.
But that's life, you either have to get your act together or you just call it quits. Cross the moat, scale down the walls, call on an army of orcs and ogres to destroy those walls (yes and have Legolas save me), do what it takes to destroy those barriers. Because only then with the walls down, can you feel free. Take caution though, for not all boundaries are meant to be crossed.
For the meantime, I really need to find some space because my walls are crashing in on me and it's getting pretty hard to breathe...
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